A Historical Journey: Jim’s Charming Family Cabin

Jim, a lover of summer, found solace in the country. He was gifted a charming rustic cottage nestled on 20 acres of land in the Vermont wilderness. Bears and other wild animals were a common sight, but the most captivating feature was the cabin’s location by the serene banks of a quiet lake. Built by his great-grandfather over a century ago, the cabin stood as a testament to resilience, having weathered floods, ice storms, and forest fires.

Despite the absence of modern amenities, the cabin offered warmth and comfort. A wood-burning firebox provided heat and cooking facilities, while Jim had recently converted the outhouse into a bathroom, adding a touch of creature comforts.

The cabin exuded a cozy ambiance, with gaps in the wood siding that allowed for drafts. To combat the cold, during the colder months, Jim strategically packed newspapers into these gaps. The wood-burning stove proved to be a lifesaver, effortlessly keeping the small cottage warm. However, maintaining a steady fire throughout the night was crucial, as Jim had to rise early to replenish the firewood, ensuring a cozy and inviting atmosphere.

Reflecting on life a century ago, the area was not yet developed. Charles Smith, Jim’s great-grandfather, was a hardworking shopkeeper in the city. Seeking a respite from the hustle and bustle, he purchased the land and embarked on the ambitious project of building the cabin. It took him four summers to complete the endeavor, during which he spent each summer camping in tents until the cabin stood tall.

Embracing Emotions: A Path to Personal Growth

When did expressing our emotions or being vulnerable become a sign of weakness? Is it a cultural, racial, or gender-specific issue?

Personally, I couldn’t understand why people would tell someone grieving or hurting to “be strong” and put on a brave face, or tell men, “big man, don’t cry.”

I was born with a sensitive nature and always felt ashamed for being open and expressive. Being “soft” was not an acceptable trait for a man, so I felt embarrassed until I came to terms with the person who would cry at the slightest provocation. It became a source of amusement among my friends.

While it may have been funny, it also instilled insecurity in me. I was afraid of taking responsibility for marriage and possibly having a family, fearing that I wasn’t strong or good enough.

Seeking solace in my faith has been my saving grace, but I can’t help but wonder what opportunities I’ve missed. My assurance comes from the belief that our Lord doesn’t make mistakes and that He will use all things for my good.

Selah

Nurturing Unique Talents in Children

Welcome to the world, little man. You are a miracle of God, bringing two families together and creating a precious baby boy. With all the resources and aspirations to make a difference in the world, what an opportunity it is to be born into a middle-class family in the 60s, a time of unprecedented growth and limitless possibilities.

Parents want the best for you, and the opportunities are endless. All you need to do is apply yourself and follow your parents’ guidance, as they know best.

However, life is not always easy, and no one asked or tried to discover your natural talents or strengths. As Rumi wisely said, children are gifts given to parents to be custodians, but they are not theirs to possess. Each child has their own unique path and purpose on earth. Parents should nurture their natural abilities, and they will discover their reason for living.

Unfortunately, if these skills are not nurtured and children are forced or coerced into areas that do not bring them fulfillment or where they cannot excel, not every child is destined to become a lawyer, doctor, or Indian chief. These children may end up feeling depressed and unhappy, seeking joy in all the wrong places.

Some children, like me, develop low self-esteem and never feel good enough. They perceive themselves as complete failures, even with evidence of their achievements, yet they are unable to recognize their worth.

When parents place high expectations on their children in the hope of giving them the best, it can lead to disappointment and pain for both the parent and the child.

Overcoming the feeling of not being worthy is a challenging task. Life has a way of reflecting our self-perception. Every setback reinforces negative self-talk, while successes are met with disbelief. Even compliments are dismissed as mere niceties rather than genuine recognition.

Negative self-talk and low self-esteem are constant companions, but I’ve discovered that leaning on God makes them bearable. I know that the Lord doesn’t make mistakes, and if He still needs me on this earth, I continue to rise each morning with gratitude and an expectation to make a difference, both in small and significant ways. I listen to the still small voice for guidance, courage, and faith to follow His direction. God is good.

Charlotte

She has endured a lot in the years she has lived on this earth.
Charlotte, a person who cherishes people, has lived a life filled with ups and downs. Despite these challenges, she always manages to find the “bright side” of every situation. Some of her friends believe she’s putting on a show because they can’t comprehend how she maintains her upbeat and optimistic demeanor.

Her favorite saying is, “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.” However, when she utters this phrase, some of her friends and family roll their eyes or chuckle, as if expecting another one of her “shows.”

Charlotte was born in a rural area of North Carolina. With only a grade school education, she attended school only on days when she couldn’t work in the fields picking tobacco. The work was arduous, and the pay was meager, but the owner of the farm provided her with a house. The house had a well and a manual pump for water, but the bathroom facilities were outdoors. She used a chamber pot at night and on cold days because it was too difficult to reach the bathroom.

Although her life wasn’t luxurious, she woke up every day grateful and with a song in her heart. She was thankful to be alive, to have a roof over her head, to have fairly good health, and to have her family. Life had never been easy, but she believed that the Lord always provided for her.

Throughout her life, Charlotte has witnessed and experienced riots between races, boycotts, racism, and police brutality against he
Every Sunday, you can find Charlotte at the front of the church, shouting and dancing in the aisles. She makes joyful noises, praising the Lord for taking her through another week and asking for continued blessings.

Wednesday evenings are spent at the sewing circle with her church sisters. The quilt she’s been working on is more than halfway completed, and she plans to finish it before winter. This quilt holds special significance because the materials used are old rags and clothing that she’s been gathering for years. Some of the clothes belonged to her parents, who both passed away, but she kept them long after their passing, which is over twenty years now. All the ladies in the circle admire its vibrant colors and shower her with compliments.

One day, while working on her quilt, a nine-year-old boy named Ray, the grandson of one of the white ladies, approached her. He held her hands and asked why her hands were so scarred and rough. Ray was visiting his grandmother from the city and had never encountered people who engaged in manual labor. Initially, his grandmother, feeling embarrassed, tried to stop him from asking questions, but Charlotte reassured her that it was okay. She explained that she had worked hard every day of her life but was grateful to the Lord.

Being an inquisitive child, Ray walked over to his grandmother and examined her hands. Although they were wrinkled, they were soft and well-manicured. He whispered to her, “How come your hands are different?” She didn’t answer him.

In her mind, she recalled the days when she was privileged to attend school every day. Sometimes, she would see Charlotte walking to the fields while she was on the school bus heading to school. She wondered if her life had turned out better or worse because she too had faced challenges in her life in different ways. She thought about how life is like a quilt made up of various pieces or experiences—some good, some bad—but when sewn together, they create a magnificent tapestry or life.

Getting to Know Dania Beach Fla.

Dania Beach Florida, Broward County’s first city was originally called “Modello” by pioneer Developer W. C. Valentine in 1898. Twelve Danish families moved from Wisconsin and settled in “Modello”. In 1902, a Danish immigrant A.C. Frost built the first residential house, the first general store and two schools, he later became the first postmaster.

A. C. Frost Residence (Front)
A. C. Frost Residence (Side)

The town was incorporated in November 1904, with 35 residents most of Danish decent. the name was changed. By 1912 Diana was thriving with 1200 people. The Frost family had success with growing tomatoes under the brand Love Apples along with other farmers would fill rail cars of fresh tomatoes were transported to the Northern cities. The town had 14 packing houses 2 canning factories and a tomato paste producer. Tomatoes evolved to a multi-million dollar business and Dania became known as the Tomato Capital of the world. Unfortunately there is no sign of tomato farms today but is a interesting fact.

At that time being a agricultural community there was no focus on the beach. The Roaring Twenties brought about the Florida Building Boom promoting ocean resorts such as Hollywood by the sea. After a devastating fire of 1926 Diana voted to be annexed with Hollywood but the that was short lived because by 1927 they resumed its own identity. In 1998 the city was renamed Dania Beach. Today the citie’s Motto is Sea it. Live it. Love it. and is appealing vacation spot with the Ft. Lauderdale Hollywood International airport being minutes away.

The Antique center along US 1 began in 1945, known as Antiques Row drew collectors from all over the country and nicknamed The Antique Capital of the South. There is still a good selection of Antique stores for the Antique aficionados.

Buildings on antique row US1

The City of Dania Beach in 2020 had a population of 31,723 and is a major player in South Florida’s academic, marine, and tourism industries. and in very close to the International airport and the Port (Port Everglades). There is a casino with 900 Las Vegas-Style slot machines. Beautiful beach with a modern pair. Many good eateries and shopping areas. There is a lot to-do visitors and residents. Take a look at the images taken with a 45 year old camera on black and white film.

Enjoy

Anyone can make a difference.

One of the benefits of the time change is the evening are longer. While enjoying one of these evenings I took a ride around the neighborhood and this gentleman was on the sidewalk with this sign. He stood on the bicycle path, so I came off the sidewalk and rode past him. As I did , I tried to read what was written on his sign. I wondered what he wanted to tell me.

It intrigued me so I turned the bicycle around and stopped him. I learned that he and his wife are from Egypt, and they are Christians and have been in the US for over ten years. He wanted to tell everyone he encountered the good news about salvation and that we are entering the end times were here.

Even though he speaks very little English and elderly he still is making a difference. He inspired me; I’ll remind myself when I have the next pity party (wondering why I am here and can I make a difference). That I should get up and show up and do my small part to make a difference in someone’s life today. Be blessed.

Be your BEST self

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Why are we Here? Why do we exist? Most of us, if we are lucky, will live for at least seventy years. some will figure out why reasonably quickly; some never do. If you look at the statistics, you will find that the people who figure it out and do something to bring it to past live a happier and more satisfying life.

The other night I have the distinct pleasure of meeting Yvette Norwood Tiger and her husband at her jazz performance at the famed Ball and Chain in the Historic Downtown Miami. This club has been there since 1935 and has seen many notable jazz and blues artists.

Ms. Norwood-Tiger has a voice that reminds me of Ella Fitzgerald or Billie Holiday and she sings in many different languages. I went to her website and saw that she has tour dates not only in Florida but she will be going on a European tour. When she comes to your city, go see her; she is phenomenal.

If you are privileged to see her show, she usually will share her testimony that many years ago, she was diagnosed with a brain tumor, and the doctors did not expect her to survive. If she did, she would not likely be able to sing or even listen to music again. But along with Gods grace and some good doctors, she survived and has become an international Singer.

I got the chance to chat with her between sets.  Yvette was born with this ability to sing, but because of fear, she never sang publicly. In fact, neither her mother nor father heard her sing until just before the end of their life. She hid her talent from everyone even to those closest to her. I was flabbergasted because to see her on stage, it’s like she was transported to her happy place. It is like this is where she was born to be.

After further probing, I found out that she is an introvert, but after being to death’s door and after being given a chance at life, she decided to use her talent, her GOD given ability, the reason for her existence. With the Lord’s help, she conquered her fear, and now it is her passion.

We are all guilty. we all let fear or some other excuses to hold us back stop us from being our very best self.  We get an unknown amount of years to make a difference. Are you satisfied with the years you have used? Make a difference today! Don’t wait for the perfect time.

The ideal time will never come.

Time never stops

_DSC0603No matter what happens time continues to move forward, There are times in my life when I have just wanted it to stop so that I can take a break to “call cree”( Jamaican word for stop and take a break).

Life can become overwhelming like a runaway train that you wish you could get off, but for whatever reason, you choose not to disembark.

Some people spend their time counting days, hours, minutes waiting for the end of the day, end of the week or until its time to take their vacation. The counting continues until its time to retire. Then retirement comes along and they are not able to enjoy the fruits of their labor.  Sounds sad? That’s so many peoples reality.

Choose not to feel trapped or stuck but rather enjoy your life and be happy!

Give it a try. Stop the train and get off. Live your Life to the fullest!

Costa Rica Vacation

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In September 2018 I went to Costa Rica for the first time. What a beautiful Country! From landing in this country I could see the beauty in the land and the people.

I made the trip with my sister (we adopted each other) and her husband who visited the country before and fell in love with it and encouraged me to come down and I am so glad   I took them up on the invitation.

We are staying in a small town in the shadow of the Arenal Volcano called La Fortuna a quaint town with lots to do. We are here in the offseason or rainy season. As long as you are ok with it raining every day it’s great! Very few tourist around, No crowds, just you hiking on the trails just bring rain gear and wear waterproof shoes because of the rain and mud.

The temperature is perfect 75 degrees with a slight breeze. I seat in my Airbnb apartment with the front and back door open and the breeze and sounds are enchanting the birds, roosters, and raindrops coupled with the breeze make for a perfect lazy Sunday morning. Looking out the back door at this majestic Volcano wishing I never had to leave.

I will be back Costa Rico, I’ll be back La Fortuna. Thank You for one of the best vacations.

Keep ON Moving Forward!

keepmovingforward2The hills and Valleys make life interesting. There is never a dull moment. It can be exciting, distressing or worrisome just by the way you react.

You may know, I am working towards the goal of full timing it on the road in a travel trailer.  This blog is dedicated to the journey………

While driving my current car stopped in the middle of a busy intersection about 45 minutes from home.  I was traveling with a friend that day, and we were able to push it into a parking lot close by so I could assess the situation.

It just would not start, so I needed to get it to a repair shop to have them diagnose the problem. Because it was a busy area, there were many auto mechanics within walking distance.

After a short walk, the second garage I stopped at was helpful and got a tow truck to tow it the mile to their garage.

Even though it was an unfortunate situation, so many things worked out that day, including having another friend that was visiting out of town who was able to pick me up and take me to work on time.

The car is in the shop as I write this and it will take quite a bit to fix it but after all is said and done the resale value will increase.

As they say, I had His favor that day and His blessing shines on me every day.

Remember you have the option of looking at your challenges in a positive or a negative light.

Saying Yes!

When I am fearful, or I am unsure of the outcome it is so easy to say no. To not step out of my comfort zone, not to take a risk.  There are countless times I have chosen to take the safe route.

No more! From now on, I will say yes even if I doubt my abilities or the voice in my head is saying you are not good enough. As the saying goes, the Lord does not call the equipped. He equips the called.

A few days ago a customer that approached me several years ago about helping her with her project, but because I was unsure of my abilities and I convinced myself that I had nothing to contribute, so I avoided committing to a meeting.  Reached out to me and wanted us to meet, I said yes, and we had a constructive meeting, and now we are working together on completing her project.

There are many accounts, where people who were not qualified in a particular area that has made significant strides in the same area.

If you have a gut feeling that you should be perusing particular profession whether it is preaching, acting, photography or any other occupation, you Will make a difference, step out in faith and go for it. Your true Happiness depends on it!

It is easier said than done…..because I struggle in this area every day. There are times I feel unworthy or ill-equipped. This is where affirmations are important. The more I say YES to being uncomfortable. The more I step out in faith, the stronger I will become.

There is nothing that we cannot do without His help. Make a difference! Live your destiny!

What’s Next!????

Photo Aug 07, 12 02 02 PMWhats next???? Now that I have stepped out in faith and told the universe my intention, and asking the Lord for guidance.

After hitting the post button, on my previous post, I could feel my anxiety level increase dramatically for a few hours. After quieting my mind with meditation, I was reminded of all the times the Lord has worked things out, in other words, the Universe came up to meet my intentions.

Fear, coupled with procrastination has made me able to stay in my safe but unfulfilled life. I sit here in Starbucks writing this with the realization that time goes so quickly and the clock is ticking every day.

  1. Make Affirmations! I am good enough!, I am smart enough! I am attractive enough! And so on…… is a way to retraining my brain especially when I start thinking negatively.
  2. Write Down Goals! I struggle with writing things down, not sure why, but maybe the reason why is because by not writing down my goals, I would not have written a document to keep me accountable. For me, now writing this Blog is a way me accountable and to inspire me to keep going, to keep moving forward no matter how small. As my dear friend more like sister says, little progress is still progress.
  3. Keep Motivated! I have found that I get motivation from walking or riding my bicycle in Nature and if I can capture a beautiful image its a bonus.  Also, Reading about hiking and exploring. I am in the process of making and hanging a dream board or a better word…. a goal board so that it will be a daily reminder to work towards my goals.
  4. Make a step towards my goal daily no matter how small.
  5. Look out for opportunities that will present themselves and not make fear or procrastination hold me back.
  6. Get my mind and body mentally and physically prepared for the journey by reading and exercise.
  7. Refuse to listen to limiting beliefs.
  8. Don’t wait for the time is right to move forward. Jump!