Charlotte

She has endured a lot in the years she has lived on this earth.
Charlotte, a person who cherishes people, has lived a life filled with ups and downs. Despite these challenges, she always manages to find the “bright side” of every situation. Some of her friends believe she’s putting on a show because they can’t comprehend how she maintains her upbeat and optimistic demeanor.

Her favorite saying is, “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.” However, when she utters this phrase, some of her friends and family roll their eyes or chuckle, as if expecting another one of her “shows.”

Charlotte was born in a rural area of North Carolina. With only a grade school education, she attended school only on days when she couldn’t work in the fields picking tobacco. The work was arduous, and the pay was meager, but the owner of the farm provided her with a house. The house had a well and a manual pump for water, but the bathroom facilities were outdoors. She used a chamber pot at night and on cold days because it was too difficult to reach the bathroom.

Although her life wasn’t luxurious, she woke up every day grateful and with a song in her heart. She was thankful to be alive, to have a roof over her head, to have fairly good health, and to have her family. Life had never been easy, but she believed that the Lord always provided for her.

Throughout her life, Charlotte has witnessed and experienced riots between races, boycotts, racism, and police brutality against he
Every Sunday, you can find Charlotte at the front of the church, shouting and dancing in the aisles. She makes joyful noises, praising the Lord for taking her through another week and asking for continued blessings.

Wednesday evenings are spent at the sewing circle with her church sisters. The quilt she’s been working on is more than halfway completed, and she plans to finish it before winter. This quilt holds special significance because the materials used are old rags and clothing that she’s been gathering for years. Some of the clothes belonged to her parents, who both passed away, but she kept them long after their passing, which is over twenty years now. All the ladies in the circle admire its vibrant colors and shower her with compliments.

One day, while working on her quilt, a nine-year-old boy named Ray, the grandson of one of the white ladies, approached her. He held her hands and asked why her hands were so scarred and rough. Ray was visiting his grandmother from the city and had never encountered people who engaged in manual labor. Initially, his grandmother, feeling embarrassed, tried to stop him from asking questions, but Charlotte reassured her that it was okay. She explained that she had worked hard every day of her life but was grateful to the Lord.

Being an inquisitive child, Ray walked over to his grandmother and examined her hands. Although they were wrinkled, they were soft and well-manicured. He whispered to her, “How come your hands are different?” She didn’t answer him.

In her mind, she recalled the days when she was privileged to attend school every day. Sometimes, she would see Charlotte walking to the fields while she was on the school bus heading to school. She wondered if her life had turned out better or worse because she too had faced challenges in her life in different ways. She thought about how life is like a quilt made up of various pieces or experiences—some good, some bad—but when sewn together, they create a magnificent tapestry or life.

Anyone can make a difference.

One of the benefits of the time change is the evening are longer. While enjoying one of these evenings I took a ride around the neighborhood and this gentleman was on the sidewalk with this sign. He stood on the bicycle path, so I came off the sidewalk and rode past him. As I did , I tried to read what was written on his sign. I wondered what he wanted to tell me.

It intrigued me so I turned the bicycle around and stopped him. I learned that he and his wife are from Egypt, and they are Christians and have been in the US for over ten years. He wanted to tell everyone he encountered the good news about salvation and that we are entering the end times were here.

Even though he speaks very little English and elderly he still is making a difference. He inspired me; I’ll remind myself when I have the next pity party (wondering why I am here and can I make a difference). That I should get up and show up and do my small part to make a difference in someone’s life today. Be blessed.

Love…..What is love

I am no expert on the issue of love…. but we all can agree that there are many different examples of love.. God’s Love, A mother’s love for their children, A child’s Love for their mother or Parent. A Love that a man and wife share, even the love that one feels when you are attracted to someone… and there are many more scenarios and there are many more ways to mess it up with our expectations. It has been said before but it is worth repeating to be happy in this life we need to have no expectations, There is only one perfect person that will never let us down or will never forsake us and his name is Jesus everyone else is human and they will hurt us sometimes unintentionally but it will happen.

 When this happens the key to this is forgiveness. God forgives us everyday we need to forgive one another and to love one another. Even if the person is our enemy or if they hurt us badly we need to find a way to forgive them and ultimately….. love them. unconditionally love ……it is difficult you say…… I agree but if that is the example Jesus left for us that is what we should aspire to… Mothers Love your Children unconditionally. Dads Love your children unconditionally. Children love your parents unconditionally, Husband love your wife unconditionally . Wife you do the same. Brothers and Sisters love each other unconditionally and Love your neighbor. As I was reading my devotional this morning one of the many verses about how we need to treat one another came up as the verse of the day and it is found in 1 Thessalonians 5:15. ” See that no one pays back evil for evil, but always try to do good to each other and to all people.”  Forgive easily, love unconditionally and control our expectations.  Blessings always

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Father’s Day

Mom, Dad and Aunt Gen

On this and every Father’s Day since the passing of my beloved dad…. I reflect on how fortunate I have been to have  had an exceptional dad. In December it will be two years since he went home and there is not one day that have passed that I have not thought about him. As I said earlier he was exceptional dad and a phenomenal human being.

Even though I am not a Father, I salute the Great Dads out there. I asked myself who makes a good dad? If we use our heavenly father as an example we all fall short but we can try to emulate his characteristics.

Oh Father in heaven is

1. Loving

2. Compassionate

3. Understanding

4. Forgives

5. Heals

6. Giving

7. Caring

8. Accepts

9. Righteous

10.Gracious

11.Kind

Just to name a few. (if I missed any please post)

As I look back my dad left a great legacy where he tried and achieved all of these characteristics. This is why I KNOW that I am BLESSED to have called him father.

I ask the fathers out there what Legacy are you leaving for your children?

Remember children learn from us and emulate us as they grow up. Keep this in mind always………

Happy Father’s Day to all the Dads out there. Have a GREAT day . Peace

Life with Death

The other day I was driving by a cemetery and had a stong feeling that I should stop.

While walking around the grave stones I felt this over whelming sence of love and peace. All the graves were decorated with wind chimes, figurines of angels and other objects even bottles of liquor depicting item that the love one once loved or enjoyed.

Death seems so final to us that are left behind, but in actually our departed love one is at peace and are at rest.

Even though it is difficult for us to say goodbye… We can show love in our own way whether elaborately decorating our love ones head stones or just remembering them fondly.  I feel they are with us as we go about our day-to-day life.

One of my favorite poems is by Henry Scott Holland,

All Is Well

Death is nothing at all,

I have only slipped away into the next room,

I am I, and you are you,

Whatever we were to each other, that we are still,

Call me by my old familiar name,

Speak to me in the same easy way which you always did,

Put no difference into your tone;

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect, without the shadow of a ghost on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity,

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?

I am just waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well.