When did expressing our emotions or being vulnerable become a sign of weakness? Is it a cultural, racial, or gender-specific issue?

Personally, I couldn’t understand why people would tell someone grieving or hurting to “be strong” and put on a brave face, or tell men, “big man, don’t cry.”

I was born with a sensitive nature and always felt ashamed for being open and expressive. Being “soft” was not an acceptable trait for a man, so I felt embarrassed until I came to terms with the person who would cry at the slightest provocation. It became a source of amusement among my friends.

While it may have been funny, it also instilled insecurity in me. I was afraid of taking responsibility for marriage and possibly having a family, fearing that I wasn’t strong or good enough.

Seeking solace in my faith has been my saving grace, but I can’t help but wonder what opportunities I’ve missed. My assurance comes from the belief that our Lord doesn’t make mistakes and that He will use all things for my good.

Selah